7 Days

 Today, snow. Enough to turn the driveway to slush, to coat the sidewalk and dust the cars, the trees, and rooftops.  On my daily trek to 7-11 for my morning Big Gulp it’s all the cashier can talk about. Officially it’s spring, but the Pacific Northwest hasn’t gotten the memo.

In New York Carlos is in short sleeves with all the windows open.

This time next week I’ll be living there.  With him.

Not just him.

We’ll be staying in Queens with his frequently absent, flight attendant friend, two cats, and a mysterious actor who left his wife for an abusive, Asian woman.  At least until we have jobs and an apartment of our own.  It’s far from ideal, but after a year in redneck, suburban hell, it seems like a dream.

Still, I’m in a constant state of panic.  I wake up in the middle of the night, my mind racing, and find it impossible to go back to sleep.  My big fear isn’t so much that I won’t be able to find a job quickly.  It’s that will find a job, and it will corrode my soul and make me long for death.

There are precedents.

I’ve been spoiled by my current job that lets me work from home, is completely devoid of stress, and pays fairly well.  I fear that the days of pajamas, irresponsible hygiene, and all day horror movie marathons will soon be replaced with button up shirts, cubicles, and long commutes.  Even though I’m not incredibly attached to the job, it’s much harder, I’m discovering, to irresponsibly quit and uproot my life now that I’m in my 30s than it was in my 20s.

Also stressful is the fact that I’ve never even been to New York (having glimpsed it only once from the Newark, NJ airport).  Carlos will be the only thing familiar.  I feel like once I see him, I’ll be fine.  The panic will subside.

Until then I make lists of things that need to be accomplished before I leave.  Finishing up work.  Having Salvation Army pick up my furniture for donation.  Packing.  Cleaning.  Nothing gets crossed out, and instead I watch episodes of MonsterQuest on Netflix and binge eat.

Another thing I keep putting off is telling my mother that I’m moving.  Every time we talk I set out to tell her, but then I always find a reason to put it off.  Today, for instance, she was trying to help my cousin retrieve my grandmother’s hearing aid which had accidentally fallen down the drain in the kitchen.  She was stressed and busy, so it didn’t seem like the best time.

She makes such a big deal out of the smallest things that I’m afraid telling her I’m moving to New York could result in an aneurysm.  She’s terrified of cities, and New York, I imagine is her greatest nightmare.  Full of everything she’s afraid of.  Terrorists.  Dope heads.  Devil worshippers.  “There’s so much meanness in the world.”  She says.  Frequently.

Carlos suggests just not telling her at all.  “It’s not like she’ll ever visit.”  He says.  Which is true enough.  I just don’t want it to be a surprise to her if my plane crashes somewhere over Kansas, and they notify my next of kin.

So I add “tell mom” to my list of things that don’t get crossed out.

7 days.  Less now.  I’m mostly more excited than terrified. New York is the city of my dreams.  I never had the courage to go before now. Imagine Carlos and I on the subway.  Shopping in Soho.  Sitting in an art cafe in Williamsburg.  The two of us on a bubble bath Sunday morning.  Holding hands in Central Park.  Cozy in a tiny apartment 7 flights up.  Living the life I’ve always dreamed of, if not exactly the way that I dreamed it.  But better. Because it’s real.  In seven short days.

4 thoughts on “7 Days

  1. I hear you on it being harder to uproot my whole life and move to another city than it used to be when I was in my twenties. But Chicago is growing on me. You and Carlos will rock New York, my dear. The only question is whether New York can handle it!

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